You may think that living a good life involves pleasing others, but to fulfill your life goals, you need to first start taking care of yourself. Making yourself a priority – or being “selfish” – will lead to a better life not only for you but also for others around you. If you work on improving yourself, you will focus on becoming a better caregiver, parent, sibling or friend.
To start living the life you want, you need to be selfish.
Taking care of yourself and your life is crucial. Remember that your life is unique and so you shouldn’t be trying to live it any other way, or trying to live by someone else’s rules. All this effort would be a waste of time and energy if you’re not living your life by your rules. Being selfish involves having balance in important areas of your life like taking care of your body, being honest with yourself and stop trying to impress others.
YOUR BODY IS YOUR TEMPLE
Being selfish with yourself means taking care of yourself. One of the most important ways we can care for ourselves is by paying attention to our nutrition, our exercise and mental health. If you are sick physically or mentally, it will be difficult to start a business or approach another equally big goal.
Therefore, you need to focus on keeping yourself balanced by working out and getting into shape even when you hate exercising. I have to be honest, I used to hate exercising. I never had a paid gym membership in my life and I was ok with this. I never had time, I was too busy with my girls at home or at school, chores, duties and running a business that the last thing I had time for was going to the gym to workout. It wasn’t until a back injury caused my back pain to grow worse and worse with time. I eventually had no choice but to get physical therapy to strengthen my back muscles and after doing so, my whole entire life changed! I was finally living pain free and it was all due to the fact that I finally made time for myself. Now I keep a fitness log of all the times I work out and I always try to beat my previous month’s goal. I have made it a priority to take care of myself first.
Not only is exercise good for you, we should also be eating nutritious foods. After I started taking working out serious, I also began to think about what I was putting in my mouth. Having a healthy diet is almost as important as exercising. Although they say abs are made in the kitchen, I am never too strict with myself. I do my best to eat healthy during the week but on the weekends, I allow myself to indulge in some of my favorite foods. Pizza, I’m looking at you!
It’s equally important to take care of your mind by practicing mindfulness. Take time to meditate or practice grateful journaling by expressing gratitude for everything you’ve been given and forgiveness for what you have not. We can’t have it all in life but by having a grateful mindset, we can improve our lives just by merely accepting it just the way it is.
So exercise, eat a healthy diet, and practice positive mindfulness. No excuses! The way you take care of your body is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Make sure you prioritize yourself and check that key areas in your life are in balance and your basic needs are met. That way you will be fit in body and mind and well enough to start working toward achieving your goals. If your body is not at its best, you will not perform at your best.
STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Have you ever tried to impress someone by acting differently, either to get a job or to win over that potential partner? Of course, we all have! But even further so many people try to fake who they are to get ahead, not realizing that this strategy is only going to backfire. Rather, the best tactic is to stop concerning yourself with what other people think of you. If you fear being judged by others you end up losing a lot of opportunities.
What’s more, not only should you not worry about what others think of you, but you should also be willing to show your authentic, “weird” self. You know we all have one. People can smell fakes from a mile away, and besides, your uniqueness is what will draw people to you. Our “different” is what actually makes us amazing.
What prevents most people from reaching their goals is their inability to express themselves.
Sometimes it can be hard to show your real self, so it’s important to develop or have a strong support group of friends and family who love and accept you just the way you are. You definitely need to stop hanging out with people who bring you down. Haters are going to hate, and the hard truth is that there’s no way to get rid of them. But be mindful that some judgments contain a small piece of truth; understand these slight criticisms to help you grow.
Make sure that you’re able to separate the jealousy-filled comments from constructive criticism. It’s not helpful if someone tells you that your business is awful, but if they tell you that your business doesn’t have a logo, which means it might fail, then there’s some valuable information you can use. Also, keep in mind that there will always be hatred toward those who are doing well or doing their own thing. Haters are jealous and feel threatened because they haven’t achieved the same level of success in their own lives. Understand that the hate is their problem and not yours, and walk away from it.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
Let’s be honest, nobody likes to admit their weaknesses or shortcomings – not even to themselves. It’s very important to realize that we all have limitations, specially when it comes to achieving our goals. But to achieve our goals, we have to be willing to look at both sides of ourselves, and not just our best aspect. Be honest with yourself, and you’ll start reaching your goals in no time.
To do this, you should first write down your strengths and weaknesses. Although you should come up with your own strengths, you might need to ask others to help you list your weaknesses. For extra honest points you should write down your own weaknesses! After all, nobody knows you better than you. So reflect on your life, focusing on where you are currently, and make it a priority to change anything you don’t like about it.
Another advantage of being honest is that it’ll help you discover areas where you can be of value to others. People appreciate those who are ready to admit that they’re not the best but that they are pretty great at what they can do, and that they still have some room for improvement. Only once you’ve identified your strengths and weaknesses can you show others where your skills lie.
Half of the work is knowing, and the other half is action.
Now is the time to be fearless and strike out toward your goals. Don’t let your bad health, haters or insecurities take advantage of your limited time in this beautiful life. Instead, think about what you really want and make it happen!
One important principle to begin practicing right away is letting go of the unknown outcome of a situation – that is, letting go of the crippling fear over whether your project will be a dud or a success. Detach yourself emotionally from the outcome as this will decrease your stress and make everything feel lighter and more manageable. Remember, the real failure is in not trying at all. So get on with your selfish self girl and watch your life transform for the beater. You absolutely deserve it!
How To Be F*cking Awesome (2016) by Dan Meredith. Why do some people have an awesome life, plenty of money, amazing friends and a business to love while others struggle at every step, are constantly broke and can never get out of the daily grind?